Over it...

Why is it that when we visit family drama always seems to occur? Its never the same when you first left and you always feel that you are trying to find your place back in within your own family. Though it seems that we try to make everyone happy, it never seems to work out and you end up hurting others feelings. Or you try to make plans 3 weeks ahead of your visit, just for them to still not work out in the end... when everone was all for those plans to begin with!

I am over it... SERIOUSLY! Over trying to make plans for everyone to get together, trying to make everyone happy, over coming here and visiting. I ask when will everyone come up and visit us and all I hear is that they have kids and that it will cost a lot of money... yeah, NO SHIT... tell me something I don't know like how a trip for us cost 1000 dollars in gas, food and hotels all for our visit down. Now I have done that 7 times... you can do the math! Yet they tell me its expensive. Or how about we make plans and they change or people who were all for them 2 1/2 weeks ago are all of a sudden saying that they can't do it and want us to go and do this with them... then get pissed when I say that our lives don't rotate around their kids.

Call that rude but I am sorry I want to have adult nights too... when we have children then we know our life will be different. And everyone tells me that we don't understand cause we do not have children... yet I do... I give 2 weeks notice out of respect cause I know they can't find a babysitter the day of! They want to do the same things we do with our friends back at home, and while we have fun doing it back at home with our friends, we want to do different things while on "vacation." The tell us we don't understand... I think it's them that don't understand... like remembering what it's like to be the couple without children. The couple without children are the ones who have to make plans around other people's babies, becuase we want to spend time with them. The copule without children has to sacrifice grownup time, because cause kids inturupt. The couple without kids has to remain flexable for the plans to change cause God forbid the babysitter cancel... yes that is what it's like for the couple without a child... yet they parents can't remember that... Perfect example... their child gets sick they call and cancel the plans... but if I were to get sick and cancel the plans I would hear from these parents... oh come one suck it up... I never get a just grown up night out and night away from my kids... REALLY?!? Cause I never get a grown up night either and I don't have kids... but everone I know does. I love all my friends babies I am around... but I just am wanting to show the other side of the coin here....

The moms also have said some things this trip that I am over... even tho they told me they "could" be a bitch and tell me that they could say that he is her son and she wants half the time when we are in town... well you just told me what you felt... reguardless... that you don't think we give you enough time! I want them to know just cause we are staying the night at my moms house doesn't necessarily mean we are spending time with my parents,. Like today we left thier house, spent all day shopping got back to my parents house at 10 pm and saw my mom for 15 minutes... which after 2 minuted tuned into a 13 minute arguement before I walked away... And then for my mom to claim what I am doing is affecting my siblings because my dads side of the family is having dinner on Friday night and I want to go is beyond crazy. I am over it... I don't even care anymore... It's become apparent to me that every time I come back I get more and more pissed... So I am ready to pack the bags and leave... to bad the husband is making us stay until we said we would go.... otherwise I'd be halfway across Houston by now!!!